How do you tell if you like your therapist?

Signs Your Therapist is Good For You

1. They actually listen to you.
2. You feel validated.
3. They want what’s best for you.
4. They’re a strong communicator.
5. They check in with you.
6. They take the time to educate themselves.
7. You view them as an ally.
8. They earn your trust.

What is it called when you like your therapist?

There is actually a term in psychoanalytic literature that refers to a patient’s feelings about his or her therapist known as transference,1 which is when feelings for a former authority figure are “transferred” onto a therapist. Falling in love with your therapist may be more common than you realize.

Should a therapist answer personal questions?

It’s not about you; it’s about them, their personal style, their approach to the work, and the way they understand the therapeutic process. That said, if your therapist does answer your question, they should give you a simple, clear answer without spilling their worries or burdening you with their problems.

Do you not like your therapy clients?

Monitor on Psychology, 40 (2). http://www.apa.org/monitor/2009/02/clients Although therapists might not like to admit it, there are times when you don’t click with particular clients—or worse, you just don’t like them. Perhaps the person is overly critical or negative, or you find your personalities are not a good match.

What personal questions should I Ask my Therapist?

It is not unusual for clients to ask their therapists personal questions, such as, “are you married?”; “do you have kids?”; and, perhaps the most problematic, “how old are you?”. (It is interesting to note that these same clients would never dream of asking their physician such invasive questions.)

What happens when a client asks a therapist for advice?

When a client asks a therapist for advice on an important life issue it’s a no-win situation for the therapist as long as the question is taken at face value because the client is robbed of personal efficacy. If the advice is enacted and things don’t work out it’s the therapist’s fault. If the advice […]

Can you refer a patient to a therapist who doesn’t like you?

“I think it would be a toxic experience for a patient, unless the therapist were super-humanly able not to express it, to sit with a therapist who didn’t like you,” she says. Be careful to refer the client in a way that is not damaging to the patient.