How can I stop talking with my mother?

Cut off the conversation. Give short, noncommittal answers to any questions they ask. If they ask if you want dinner or if you’ll go somewhere with them, say no politely. Break or bend this rule if they’re asking questions that might lead to reconciliation. Listen before you respond.

Should I stop speaking to my mom?

Many children—whether grown adults or younger— have a healthy relationship with their mother, but some people have a parent who makes them feel inadequate, worthless, or like they did something horrible. You may even ask, “Is it okay to stop talking to my toxic mother?” The answer, in short, is yes.

Should I talk to a therapist about my toxic mother?

Speaking with a therapist can also help you learn to put your own approval first before your mother’s. If you grew up in a toxic household, you probably swore to yourself you’d never act like your parents.

Can therapy help you deal with a difficult mother?

“For some women, engaging in therapy to get a good understanding of themselves and their dynamic with their mother can be helpful,” Wainman says.

Is your mother not giving you the validation you need?

Though it may be hard, if your mother is not giving you the validation you need, remember that your accomplishments still have worth even if she doesn’t see it. Speaking with a therapist can also help you learn to put your own approval first before your mother’s.

How does a toxic mother affect an adult’s relationship?

Similarly, you may realize that your toxic mom has affected your ability to find and maintain healthy relationships as an adult. “Many adult children with a toxic mother are often drawn into other toxic relationships either romantic or friendships,” therapist and clinical supervisor Elizabeth Trautwein, LPC, LMHC, tells Bustle.