Why do I get irritated when I spend time with someone?

It’s part of being human. There’s an element to irritation that’s simply part of being human. If you spend too much time with one person, even your most favorite person on the planet, you will likely start to feel irritated after a while.

Why doesn’t he Kiss Me when he has feelings for me?

Firstly, because he doesn’t want you to know that he wants to kiss you, and secondly because if he does kiss you it will only intensify the emotions that he is feeling towards you.

What is irritation in a relationship?

Irritation is often a way to keep your partner a safe distance. A client shares her awareness of how irritation was keeping her boyfriend at arm’s length: I remember early in my relationship with my boyfriend, he used to talk in a silly, playful voice.

Why do people fight their feelings for each other?

It is a self-defence mechanism. They are trying to protect themselves from ever feeling head-over-heels in love again. People might also try to fight their feelings if they ‘shouldn’t’ be with the person they have feelings towards in other people’s eyes.

Should you allow irritation in intimate relationships?

Not allowing for occasional irritation in an intimate relationship is setting yourself up against an unrealistic expectation. That said, the more sensitive you are the more easily irritated you’ll feel around others.

Should you take relationship irritation at face value?

If we take relationship irritation at face value, we’ll likely fall into the dominant cultural message system that says, “If you’re that irritated, you’re probably with the wrong person. Love should have more flow and ease than this.” But, as you may know from following my work, I don’t take anything at face value.

How do you breathe through irritation?

It’s a real practice to learn how to breathe through that irritation, especially when it feels like a volcanic eruption inside, without saying anything or acting it out in any way. Over time you’ll discover that the less energy you give it, the less irritated you’ll feel.