Why do some people walk away from arguments?

Some people can get so self absorbed, they don’t realize they’re in way too deep in an argument that has no end in sight. So because someone would rather yell back and forth until they’re blue in the face, they lose the opportunity to walk away with grace and class.

Why does my boyfriend turn everything on me?

Your husband or partner may turn everything around on you because he feels insecure. That is to say, he may have deep-seated self-esteem issues. So putting you down and sending the message that you’re not good enough makes him feel better about himself. This is so for a couple of reasons.

How do you deal with an argumentative person?

Don’t sink to a level in the midst of an emotional battle of attacking the other person’s character. Stay focused and on the problem. Telling someone about their weaknesses not only sidetracks the argument but it makes the argument useless to have after that point.

What happens when you use ultimatums in an argument?

When you start to use threats or ultimatums in an argument, whatever it is that you were talking about, immediately fades into nothingness. The focus of the conversation then shifts to that specific ultimatum or threat. This causes the other person to counter attack or defend themselves.

What happens when you make your point during an argument?

You’re more concerned with your intention than you are with the impact of your words or actions. In making your point during an argument, you may inadvertently say something that hurts or otherwise invalidates your partner’s feelings.

Why do I bring up past mistakes in an argument?

You bring up past mistakes or unrelated issues to deflect and distract. Bringing up your laundry list of unrelated grievances in the middle of an argument is only going to make matters more contentious. If you want to fight fair, then dredging up your partner’s past errors in a bid to “win” the argument is a big no-no.