Why do people protect abuser?

Feelings of pity toward the abusers, believing they are actually victims themselves. Because of this, victims may go on a crusade or mission to “save” their abuser. In essence, victims may tend to be less loyal to themselves than to their abuser.

Why does someone become an abuser?

Abusive people believe they have the right to control and restrict their partner’s lives, often either because they believe their own feelings and needs should be the priority in the relationship, or because they enjoy exerting the power that such abuse gives them.

Why do women defend themselves against their abusers?

They feel they cannot find another man, especially if she has kids. Often, this is because the abuser has verbally abused her to the point where she feels worthless, but sometimes women go into the relationship that way already. Another reason they defend them or don’t leave is because the abuser is the breadwinner.

Why do women stay with an abusive man?

There are several reasons. One is insecurity/low self-esteem. They feel they cannot find another man, especially if she has kids. Often, this is because the abuser has verbally abused her to the point where she feels worthless, but sometimes women go into the relationship that way already.

Why do victims of abuse stay with their parents?

If you’ve had a painful relationship with a parent growing up, you can confuse love and pain. Victims also stay for the following reasons: Finances. Nowhere else to live. No outside emotional support. Childcare concerns. Taking the blame for the abuse.

Why do victims of domestic abuse hope their abusers will change?

The abuse itself is experienced as an emotional rejection with the threat of being abandoned. This triggers feelings of shame and fears of both more abuse and abandonment in the victim, which are then relieved during the honeymoon phase. Then victims hope the abuser will change. After all, there are good times between episodes of abuse.