Why do parents say Im not your friend?

Originally Answered: Why do parents say “I’m not your friend, I’m your mom/dad” as if that is a positive thing? It isn’t meant as a positive (or negative) thing. They say it to establish boundaries in the relationship and who is the authoritative figure. And that they should be treated as such.

Why you shouldn’t be your child’s friend?

They need to be able to have relationships that are separate from their relationship with their mom. Dependency – If you or your child become dependent on one another for friendship it can backfire. If there’s a disagreement or a conflict, that friendship and the mother-daughter relationship can be destroyed.

How rare is being an only child?

— In recent years, the number of couples choosing to have one child has risen sharply. A recent Pew Research Center study found the number of women who reached the end of their child bearing years with only one child doubled in the last generation, from 11 percent in 1976 to 22 percent in 2015.

Should I be friends with my child’s friends?

But if you try to be friends with your child, it comes at the cost of your authority, and it undermines your role as a parent. Practically speaking, your child can find another friend, but your child can’t find another parent. You and only you can be your child’s parent, and that’s why you need to be the parent and not the friend.

Can a child find another parent if they have different friends?

Practically speaking, your child can find another friend, but your child can’t find another parent. You and only you can be your child’s parent, and that’s why you need to be the parent and not the friend.

How should parents deal with children who don’t have the same characteristics?

Parents should strive to take their own egos out of the equation and instead focus on what the child needs. Just because a child does not have the same characteristics as their parents does not mean they are a failure that needs correcting. A good strategy is to encourage children to develop their own personality and voice.

Do parents really know what is best for their children?

There are parents who believe that they know what is best for their children. They plan their children’s life from birth to marriage to career and beyond. They believe that they are making their kids’ lives easier and less stressful.