Why do parents pick on one child?
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Why do parents pick on one child?
The targeted child may remind the parent of a trauma he or she experienced, such as rape, or as Egeland noted, their own abuse. Sometimes, parents target a child for abuse because the child is hyperactive, has a disability, or displays personality traits the parent doesn’t like.
How do I stop favoring one child?
How to avoid playing favorites
- Accept that you are human and that one child may reach you in a way that others don’t.
- Listen to others who might be trying to tell you that you favor one child over another (your child, your spouse).
- “Love uniquely, not equally” – Don’t try to love or treat each child equal to the others.
Why do some parents favor one child over another?
“Parents may favor one child over another, for a lot of reasons. The child may have an easy temperament or might behave particularly well. They may look like you, or remind you of a favorite relative,” says Susan Newman, Ph.D., a social psychologist, and author of Little Things Long Remembered: Making Your Children Feel Special Every Day.
Is one child easier to love than the other?
We all have one child who is easier than the other. But blatantly showing one child more love than another does more than just upset the child who feels less love–it’s damaging for their siblings too, and those feeling creep into adulthood and can’t be undone.
Why are parents more affectionate to daughters?
Parents behave more affectionately toward children who are pleasant and affectionate, and they direct more discipline toward children who act out or engage in deviant behavior. Because girls tend to be warmer and less aggressive than boys, parents generally favor daughters over sons (but only in non-patriarchal cultures).
Why do middle children get the most parental affection?
This occurs in part because middle children will never be the only child living at home — at some point first-borns and last-borns will have their parents all to themselves. Overall, first-borns get the most privileges and last-borns receive the most parental affection.