Why do narcissists gather information?

They’re collecting information about you so they can assess your weaknesses, strengths, vulnerabilities, assets, secret longings – all of the things they can use against you as ammunition later on. They want to know more about you so they can “mirror” back to you what they know you’re searching for in a partner.

Do narcissists accuse others of what they are doing?

Narcissists are often fond of accusing another of the very things or attitudes they are culpable of. While such false accusations are often done in your absence (e.g. to your boss at your place of work, or with friends). Narcissists are also bold enough to accuse you of a trait they know they are culpable of.

What a narcissist should not do?

Here are 10 “don’ts” for dealing with narcissists:

• Don’t give them ammunition.
• Don’t take them at face value.
• Don’t try to justify or explain yourself.
• Don’t minimize their outrageous behavior.
• Don’t expect them to own their part.
• Don’t try to beat them at their own game.
• Don’t expect loyalty.

Is there a way to identify a narcissist?

While it does a good job of identifying narcissists, it does not distinguish between those who are loud and proud of their narcissism (grandiose narcissism) and those who are more shy and feel shame and concern that people will judge them negatively for their self-involvement (vulnerable narcissism).

How do you deal with a demanding narcissist in court?

Narcissists will make outrageous claims and big demands. Let them swear and bluster… the worse their behavior is, the better it is for you. Play it cool, show the court and the judge how rational and healthy you are, and how demanding and bullying the narcissist is.

Are narcissists unaware of the way they act?

But narcissists are not unaware of the way they act. In a majority of cases, narcissists are blissfully aware of their behavior as well as the reputation of their behavior.

Can a narcissist be in a family court case?

The Narcissist in Court. One of the most toxic people you will meet in family court is the narcissist. When it comes to a divorce case, the narcissist will often be pitted against a person with very low self-esteem.