Why do I over explain everything?

Overexplaining might be a type of response to past trauma, also known as the fawn response, Nobrega says. If you’ve experienced trauma, you might rely on people pleasing behaviors like over explaining to keep you safe. You might also slip into over explaining if you’ve been gaslit.

Why do I always try to explain myself?

Why do I say sorry all the time?

It’s a symptom of our low self-esteem, fear of conflicts, and laser-sharp focus on other people’s needs and feelings. We also tend to have poor boundaries, sometimes enmeshed with others, so we’ll accept blame for things we didn’t do or couldn’t control.

How do you deal with the need to Explain yourself away?

You must work on how you feel about yourself then until you realize that you are a free adult and you are beholden to no one. When you have the need to explain yourself away, stop and ask yourself why you believe (or feel) this.

How to get people to stop telling you what to do?

You must try and develop the discipline necessary not to tell everyone about your doings. This is the simplest and best way to get others to stop telling you what to do. To do this you have to get over the perceived obligation to explain yourself. Stay focused on your desired outcome and let others be.

How do I stop over-explaining my Feelings?

Take a second to think about what you’re going to say before it comes out so you can feel confident in your response. Place value in your own thoughts and decisions. There’s no reason to feel like you need to defend yourself. Think about why you feel the need to over-explain. Do you feel unsure of your stance on an issue?

Do you need an explanation when the other person doesn’t?

Like the previous example, there are situations where we assume that the other person requires an explanation, when in fact they don’t. While there are circumstances that could use an explanation, more often than not, your answer, statement, question (whatever it may be), is more than enough.