Why do I need constant appreciation?

Feeling genuinely appreciated lifts people up. At the most basic level, it makes us feel safe, which is what frees us to do our best work. It’s also energizing. When our value feels at risk, as it so often does, that worry becomes preoccupying, which drains and diverts our energy from creating value.

Is it selfish to want to be appreciated?

In the end, it’s not selfish to want another person to appreciate, value, or desire you (no matter how you might feel about yourself). As long as you’re honest and kind—and be yourself—than you “deserve” all the attention people are willing to offer you. And if someone does offer it to you, don’t question it.

What happens if you don’t help others?

If you don’t, it has the potential to cost you your time, your money and the relationships you hold dear to yourself (personal or professional). A random act of kindness can change someone’s life, but it can also destroy one too. If you help the wrong people, you can miss the opportunities to help the right people. Think before you help.

Why do some people take kindness for granted?

They happily take advantage of the kindness and generosity of others, but feel no obligation to show gratitude or reciprocate. Instead, they just expect more. And the more you do for these people, the more they will take you for granted. There is nothing wrong with being kind, in fact the world needs more kind and thoughtful people.

When someone fails to acknowledge you when you think you deserve it?

So when someone fails to acknowledge you when you think what you’ve done deserves acknowledgment, it’s wise not to take this to heart. For various reasons, it’s crucial that when you’ve executed something well, demonstrated skill or talent, behaved generously or selflessly, you learn how to congratulate yourself.

Do you help people when you don’t have the skills?

Helping people when you don’t have the skills or time will do more harm than good. Offering help when you can’t do a good job will do more harm than good. It’s like being blind and teaching someone else how to paint. You make people miss the opportunities to find better help.