Why are we attracted to those who ignore us?

So why can’t we let go of people who continually reject us? According to Helen Fisher and her colleagues, the reason romantic rejection gets us hooked is that this sort of rejection stimulates parts of the brain associated with motivation, reward, addiction, and cravings.

Why do we ignore others?

Here are some reasons you might be ignored by friends: You might be too negative. You might be too high- or low energy compared to your friend. You might talk too much about yourself. You might talk about things your friend isn’t interested in.

Why do I get stuck on people who don’t want me?

Your attachment style can also influence how much you get stuck on people who don’t want you. People with a dependent attachment style (also known as a co-dependent or anxious attachment style) are brought up to seek out people who will cause them pain.

Should we expose ourselves to the beliefs of people we disagree with?

But, even if people do expose themselves to beliefs they disagree with, that won’t necessarily make things better. More exposure to the other side can sometimes backfire and cause people to become more entrenched in their own beliefs.

Why do we feel anguish when the other person doesn’t want?

Another aspect of this anguish may have to do with the perceived value of the other person. If the other person doesn’t want us or is not available for a relationship, their perceived value goes up. They become so “expensive” that we cannot “afford” them. Evolutionarily speaking, it would have been an advantage to mate with the most valuable mate.

Why do we want only those individuals we cannot have?

But that, too, does not explain why we often want only those individuals we cannot have. Another aspect of this anguish may have to do with the perceived value of the other person. If the other person doesn’t want us or is not available for a relationship, their perceived value goes up.