What should you not say to an angry person?

Here are four things to avoid saying:

• “It’s not a big deal. Don’t worry about it.”
• “Just think positive.” If only it were that easy!
• “Stop being so emotional (or sensitive or dramatic).” Some people are highly sensitive to emotional events, and that’s just how they are.
• “You need to be more rational.”

Do people mean the stuff they say out of anger?

No, they don’t really mean what they say out of hurt or anger. They’re just reacting to all the emotions tossing around inside them. Sometimes a person just takes out their hurt on the closest person around them at the time so they can feel better.

How do I stop saying things I don’t mean?

How Do I Stop Saying Things Without Thinking?

1. Accept your condition and know that you are the only one that can bridle your tongue.
2. Practice diligently shutting your mouth as soon as it’s opened (until you’ve thought about what you’re going to say).
3. Say only what you really mean.
4. Avoid excessive and needless talking.

How do you calm down an angry text?

“Take a moment, close your eyes, and ask yourself: if I was in my friend’s situation, what would I want to hear most? and listen for the answer.” Second-guessing your texts or retyping them ten times may make your friend even more stressed. Give yourself 30 seconds to think through your responses.

What to do when others don’t accept what you say?

Others may have to think about what you said and need time to get over hurt feelings or anger, or to rebuild trust. Do your best with the part that’s up to you. The rest is up to them. Forgive yourself, too. We can learn from mistakes. Focus on mending the situation, not replaying it in your head.

What should you do when you hurt someone’s feelings?

If you feel you may have said something that could hurt someone’s feelings, but you aren’t sure, ask them. Ask them if your relationship is solid and safe, and if it isn’t, what you both can do to make it better. Forgive Yourself… Being human is not an excuse for hurting people, but being human means we will from time to time make mistakes.

How do you apologize to someone who has offended you?

*edit for clarity: you should be aware of your own motives, but you should NOT burden the person you offended with your reasons, intentions, rationalizations, justifications, and musings on the state of modern society that contributed to your gaffe. It’s not their problem. Sincerely but concisely apologize.

How can I say sorry for the things I did wrong?

Apologies can go a long way toward healing hurt or angry feelings. It takes courage to step up and admit what you did was wrong. Try saying: “What I said the other day was really insensitive of me. I shouldn’t have said that. It wasn’t fair. I was being judgmental and gossipy — and I don’t feel proud of that. I just want to say I’m sorry.