What should you not say to a survivor?

Things not to say to a Survivor

• Ask if we liked it.
• If we were sexually abused don’t tell us “it’s just sex”.
• Tell us how we could have avoided it.
• Make fun of us.
• Tell us it would never happen to you and why.
• There’s no need to avoid us.
• Please don’t treat us like we have the plague.

What should you not say to childhood trauma?

Things Never to Say to Trauma Survivors

• It’s Time to Move On.
• It could not have been that bad.
• Stop Being Negative.
• If You Continue Dwelling On It, Then You’ll Never Move On.
• Do You Think You’ll Ever Stop Being Depressed?
• You’re a Survivor, So Quit Being a Victim.
• It Could Always Be Worse.

Should I tell my partner about my sexual assault?

Though you don’t ever have to tell a romantic partner about sexual assault, if you’re sexually intimate with them it can help both of you to understand what you are comfortable with and anything you might want to avoid because of your past experiences.

What should you do when someone tell you they have been assaulted?

Being told that someone has been assaulted can be an extremely emotional, scary, confusing, and possibly shocking experience for both you and the other person. One of the best things that you can do is to listen. Surprisingly, listening is not the easiest thing to do. Often we want to ask questions, show outrage, or offer advice.

Can You Believe A friend who has been assaulted?

If you do nothing else, you can do this—you can believe your friend. The blame for what happened is on the person who committed the assault, NOT on the victim.

Should my friend get a medical exam after an assault?

Your friend’s safety should be a primary concern. Regardless of whether they want to report the assault, they can (and should) still receive a medical exam.