What rules should parents have with their older children still living at home?

Kids are experts at manipulating their parents with guilt. I think parents should have two levels of rules with their older children who are still living at home: (1) core household rules that reflect your values, structure, and moral authority; and (2) rules specifically for older children in the household.

Are 22-year-olds really more prepared for adult situations?

Most of the research shows kids are still using the same parts of their brain at 22 that they were using at 15. Their brain is still developing in their early 20’s. So they are not that much more prepared for adult situations. I hear kids say this all the time to their parents:

What are the rules when a child turns 18 years old?

Everyone in the home should know what the rules are, and it’s important to lay it all out before the child turns 18. For example, the rule on drinking: “If you come home drunk, you will not be allowed to live in our house.” It can be you’re out of the house for a few days, a few weeks or forever.

Why can’t my adult children stay in my house?

All you know is that they can’t stay in your house. This is the consequence for disrespecting your home and your values. This is not a preparation for independence. This is used strictly to get some control in your house. If you have adult children who are verbally abusing you and breaking things, your house is not in your control.

Is it normal for an adult child to act like an adult?

This is all perfectly normal and does not mean that the young adult is destined to act this way forever. And while adult children might seem to be in desperate need of advice, there’s a good chance that they will react poorly if their parents offer it.

Do aging parents need the attention of their adult children?

Aging parents need the attention of their adult children. They will be happier, safer, and get all the health care they need if you take the time out of your tight work schedule to be with them. As you can see, there are many simple things you could do to create more time for your aging parents.

How do you set rules with an older child?

Discuss the Rules. The most important part of having rules with older children is the discussion that establishes those rules. It should be a sit-down discussion. And you should write everything down that you agree to so that everything is clear.