What is “narcissistic hoovering?

Narcissistic hoovering is when a narcissist who had previously devalued or discarded his partner tries to bring him/her back in his life. Most often they do this by being temporarily overly nice in order to attract their ex back.

Why do narcissists always return to their ex-lovers?

A narcissist will always return to an ex-lover to ensure that his narcissistic supply still pines for him and that she never moves on from the pain he has caused her.

How to deal with a narcissistic husband?

Or, if you have no choice but to interact with this narcissist for some reason, you can choose the Gray Rock Method, which is also an effective means of keeping emotional distance between the two of you. The best revenge is living well. – George Herbert

Do narcissists get back together after a breakup?

Even a narcissist who is not relationship-addicted may assume that he is going to find a better alternative after the breakup but when this doesn’t happen he might decide to get back to the same relationship again even though nothing changed on his partner’s side.

Is it ever over for a narcissist?

Not for the narcissist. For the narc, it’s NEVER over, which is why they hoover you again and again (hoovering = named after the vacuum, meaning, to try to suck you back into their life). A lot of victims want to know WHY the narcissist does this.

What does it mean when someone Hoovers you?

This name makes sense because the person hoovering you is treating you like dirt and trying to suck you back into their control. Hoovering is thus an attempt by a narcissist to restore the lost emotional supply you once were.

How long does it take for a narcissist to stop hurting you?

It’s been going reasonable under the circumstances and it might be two weeks, four months, or more than a year since you’ve spoken to your narcissistic abusive partner that damaged you in a brutal way. This narcissistic partner disrespected, degraded, confused, and/or manipulated you.

How do narcissists get their exes back after a breakup?

Most often they do this by being temporarily overly nice in order to attract their ex back. Most people who had been devalued or discarded by their narcissistic partner get really confused when the narcissist suddenly gets overly interested in them again, even though nothing big changed since the breakup.

Why do narcissists make their victims come back?

By timing these reappearances perfectly, the narcissist conditions his victim to not only expect him to come back but also to expect him to come back at a much later date, thus giving him more play time in the interim.

What is a vacuum cleaner narcissist?

The name says it all – like a vacuum cleaner, they suck you back into the relationship after a period of narcissistic abuse or narcissistic rage. They employ a variety of tactics ranging from gaslighting and misdirection to outpourings of love to straight-up threats.

How to know if your ex-narcissist is a coward?

1. The Cowardly Hoover If you can count how many times your ex-narcissist said he/she was sorry on one hand, then you might want to prepare yourself for this tactic. This tactic is used by cowardly narcissists. The narcissist recruits a third party (usually one of their relatives) to send you a message, to get a temperature on you.

How does the narcissist hook you into a cycle of abuse?

When you are wise to how the narcissist hooks you into this cycle of abuse, you CAN make the choice to break free. This piece examines the key techniques used by the pathological narcissist to hook you in: hoovering & baiting. Unhook yourself. Get wise to their games and refuse to play. Set yourself free gorgeous one.