What are the four stages of narcissism?

In each of the four stages– idealize, devalue, discard, and hoover– they have woven a tapestry in which they can dominate you into providing them with what they need while giving as little in return as possible to get it from you. You are reacting to what the narcissist does in the way you have been conditioned to do so at each stage.

What do Narcissists like to say in relationships?

1 Narcissists all act in similar ways. 2 They tend to follow the same pattern in relationships — idealize, devalue, discard. 3 They also have a certain way of talking. 4 Here are some of the things narcissists are likely to say in relationships, and in what stages to expect them.

What is the dizzying cycle of narcissism?

Idealize, Devalue, Discard: The Dizzying Cycle of Narcissism. The relationship cycle typical of extreme narcissistic abuse generally follows a pattern. Individuals in emotionally abusive relationships experience a dizzying whirlwind that includes three stages: idealization, devaluing, and discarding.

Do narcissists all follow the same blueprint?

Narcissists all seem to follow the same blueprint. Narcissists all act in similar ways. They tend to follow the same pattern in relationships — idealize, devalue, discard. They also have a certain way of talking.

What is devaluation in narcissistic abuse?

What is Devaluation in Narcissistic Abuse? Devaluation is what is happening when a narcissist tears you down emotionally, insults you (outright or covertly), and makes you doubt yourself and your self-worth.

Why do narcissists discontinue you?

Because the narcissist cannot subsist without supply, when they determine your utility is done & dusted, they make the conscious decision to discard you. But first they must secure replacement supply. Whilst this is reprehensible, there is an upside (kinda…as far as upsides go in a toxic mess!).

Why do narcissists flip?

[Read Idealization and Devaluation: Why Narcissists Flip] Because narcissists split people into “good” and “bad” they are constantly fluctuating between feeling victimized and feeling emboldened by what other people do.