Is there such thing as conditional love?

Conditional love can be defined as just that–love with conditions. This means that your love for another person, or another person’s love for you, is contingent on certain actions, or things going on.

Where does conditional love come from?

Conditional love comes from ego and generally focuses on someone (like a romantic partner, child, parent, friend) or some thing (like a house, a car, or a job). When we love someone conditionally, we tend to want them to look, act, and think in ways that fit our own paradigms and expectations.

What is a conditional relationship?

Definition: A conditional relation is a logical relation in which the illocutionary act employing one of a pair of propositions is expressed or implied to be true or in force if the other proposition is true.

Is conditional love selfish?

Conditional love is selfish — “I will love you only if you. . .” It is controlling — someone else becomes the authority for our life. Our pursuit of approval restricts what we think and do and creates anxiety about triggering the other person’s anger and losing the love we so crave.

Is conditional love bad?

Conditional love doesn’t feel very nice. In fact, it doesn’t always feel like love at all. When someone loves us conditionally, it means that they put terms, restrictions, or rules on the giving of their love. It’s not a tried-and-true love and often it can cause deep pain to those on the receiving end.

Why do I feel like love is conditional?

When someone loves us conditionally, it means that they put terms, restrictions, or rules on the giving of their love. While a person can have feelings of deep care or affection for you, their love is conditional if it feels like you have to earn it. Additionally, conditional love often vanishes during difficult times.

What’s the difference between conditional love and unconditional love?

Some authors make a distinction between unconditional love and conditional love. In conditional love, love is “earned” on the basis of conscious or unconscious conditions being met by the lover, whereas in unconditional love, love is “given freely” to the loved one “no matter what”.

Should love have conditions?

But while love is one thing, a relationship is quite another. A healthy relationship does have conditions, of a sort: your boundaries. If your partner doesn’t respect your boundaries, the relationship isn’t healthy, no matter how deeply you love them. Moving on from it, then, could be an act of unconditional self-love.