Is it normal for my boyfriend to fantasize about another woman?

“It is natural for people to develop interest and fantasize about people other than their partners,” Rachel Perlstein, LCSW, relationship coach and co-founder of A Good First Date, tells Bustle. “When shared with a partner, this can even bring a couple closer together, especially if both are open with it.”

What sexual fantasies are abnormal?

There were two rare fantasies: sex with a child younger than 12 years, and sex with an animal. Unusual fantasies for women were of peeing on a partner, being urinated on, cross-dressing, being forced to have sex, abusing an intoxicated person, having sex with a prostitute, and having sex with a small-breasted woman.

Is it normal to have fantasies about someone other than your partner?

“It is natural for people to develop interest and fantasize about people other than their partners,” Rachel Perlstein, LCSW, relationship coach and co-founder of A Good First Date, tells Bustle. “When shared with a partner, this can even bring a couple closer together, especially if both are open with it.”

What is the relationship between sexual fantasies and mental disorders?

Kahr argues that the fantasies he saw in the most disturbed people tended to be fantasies that were extremely simplistic and two-dimensional. He saw no relationship in his research on sexual fantasies, between disturbing and complex, fantastic sexual fantasies, and any level of mental disturbance.

Should you change yourself for Your Partner’s Fantasy?

Just to be clear, you should never change yourself for anyone, not even your partner. But in this case, fantasies can be fun. If your partner has a fantasy person in mind and you’re willing to have a little fun with it, go for it. As long as both of you are in on the fantasy, Leikam says, it won’t cross any lines.

Do you have secret fantasies about other people?

This is sure to be surprising news to the large numbers of people who report frequently having secret fantasies about other people during sex with their spouse or partner. We simply don’t know enough about sexual fantasies, and their connections to personality, behavior, and sexuality, to make any such judgments.