Is it bad to want closure from an ex?
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Is it bad to want closure from an ex?
Seeking closure is especially beneficial in situations where the relationship ended via text, Jonathan Bennett, a certified counselor and relationship expert, tells Bustle. Nothing’s worse than a partner calling things off a little too casually — or straight up ghosting — after you’ve spent a lot of time together.
What can I say to my ex about closure?
If you want to know why your relationship ended, try asking your ex these five questions.
- Can you walk me through what happened, from your perspective?
- I have a lot of questions about the way things ended, so can we set up a time to talk about it?
- Could we have done anything differently?
Should you meet up with your ex to get closure?
No matter what part you played in ending it, you might still have the urge to tie up the relationship in a neat bow—in other words, get closure—before moving on to someone new. A friend recently confessed to me that more than a year after breaking up, she met with her ex so she could get closure before she relocated across the country.
Does getting answers from your ex Help you get Over Your breakup?
And if you’re like a lot of newly single people, you may start to believe that getting answers from your ex will help you get over the breakup and feel better. “I just need closure,” are the all too familiar words that flash through your mind.
Can anyone give you closure but yourself?
Many times, from pained students, clients, and friends, I’ve heard the mantra, “no one can give you closure but yourself”. It’s usually said defeatedly while holding back tears after they’ve explained that their former partner refuses to acknowledge why the relationship ended.
Why do I want to talk to my ex-boyfriend?
Often, you wish you could talk to that person to obtain some closure and some sort of validation that the relationship truly existed and that you meant something…anything.