How do I stop putting expectations on others and myself?

How to Defeat Expectations

1. Put your oxygen mask first: The first step to getting rid of expectations is to treat yourself kindly.
2. Adjust the Way You Think. You cannot control what others think about you, but you can choose how you talk to yourself.
3. Speak Up.
4. Free Yourself and Free Others.
5. Stop Judging, Stop Expecting.

How do you have no expectations from others?

9 Things You Need to Stop Expecting From Others

1. Don’t expect people to agree every time you speak.
2. Don’t expect others to acknowledge you when you berate yourself.
3. Don’t expect others to respect you when you don’t respect yourself.
4. Don’t expect others to tell you what to do when you have no idea what you want.

Why do I set high expectations for myself?

High expectations often come connected to other issues, including: perfectionism. low self-esteem (failing at what you expect confirms your low beliefs of yourself) fear of failure (which can lead to setting yourself up to fail, unconsciously proving your fear valid)

Why do people have zero expectations of others?

For me the reason why I have zero expectations is because I have enormous empathy. At the end of the day, I recognize that people have this worldview of constant expectation. It’s how they’re wired. Everyone thinks they’re just entitled to help.

Is having zero expectations a strength or a weakness?

When you have zero expectations, everything else is just a pleasant surprise. In other words I’ve actually seen it as a strength. It’s a strength that I don’t need anything from anybody.

Do you separate your wants from shoulds?

You separate your wants from shoulds. Shoulds are expectations imposed by others. When we fail to do them we feel guilty. When we do follow them we often expect a payoff for our efforts. When the expected payoff doesn’t come, our disappointment and resentment are fueled. A way out of this mental dance is focusing on wants.

What happens when you don’t have high expectations?

If you have high expectations, you can often end up disappointed, but if you don’t have these expectations, you may not try as hard as you could in order to accomplish a goal. These tendencies can turn people into perfectionists, which is far from a healthy lifestyle.