Do you ever not like being told what to do?

You probably don’t like being told what to do — me, neither. I don’t even like being asked to do something I was going to do anyway. When I was kid I hated it when my parents asked me to unload the dishwasher when I was already planning to do it.

Why do we refuse to do what others tell us to do?

We may still refuse to do what we’re told, but it will be for real reasons, not as a reflexive gesture of the ego. Act Wisely. With these things in mind, choose wisely. Follow others’ instructions when they’re in your best interest, even if you’re not crazy about being told what to do.

Why do we hate it when people tell us what to do?

When someone tells us what to do, they’re either telling us to stop what we’re doing or to do something we’re not doing. So naturally it feels like we’re being criticized, which no one I know enjoys. It wounds our ego, which always wants to be right.

Why do people always tell you what to do?

People may tell you what to do for a variety of reasons: Control : can be from anxiety (controlling your behavior reduces their worries e.g. control freak parents), perfectionism (“this is not how you do it”), ego boast (I KNOW better than you)

What happens if you don’t feel understood?

As Michael Schreiner duly notes in The Need To Be Understood, “The unconscious fear that seems to always be lurking in the background is that if we aren’t understood it will be as if we never existed.” (A scary thought, indeed!) 4. You belong. Feeling understood connects you to others, allowing you to feel welcome.

What happens when you don’t feel that others really know you?

Not feeling that others really know us can leave us feeling hopelessly estranged from the rest of humanity. It may well be that feeling understood is a prerequisite for our other desires to be satisfyingly fulfilled. Without experiencing that others know us, or are able to, we’re left feeling alone — at times, despairingly so.

How can I assume that I am being understood by others?

In general, you can’t assume you’ll be understood unless you take the time to make certain the language you’re employing is crystal clear. If you don’t do this, any misunderstanding is more likely on you, not the other person. 2. How well do you understand yourself (your characteristics, values, preferences, motives, etc.)?