Can I ask for a different therapist?

You can be open with your new therapist about any feelings of sadness or fear you’re having about the transition. They’ve likely worked with many people in this situation, and may have insights and guidance to help you adjust. Learn more about how to vet a new therapist, including questions to ask.

How do I tell my therapist they aren’t right for me?

The best way tell a therapist it isn’t working is to be open and honest. At the end of the session, when they ask if you want to schedule another appointment, say: “I really appreciate the time you’ve spent with me, but I don’t think it’s a good fit and am going to try to find a different therapist.”

Is it OK to ask your therapist what they think of you?

“How Will I Know We’re A Good Fit?” It might seem awkward, but it’s also OK to be straightforward and ask your therapist if they think you’re a good fit for each other, and whether they think they can help you.

Should therapists allow clients to ask personal questions?

On the one hand is the question of whether or not clients should ask personal questions and whether or not their therapists should answer them. The traditional Freudian answer to that question is that clients can ask, but therapists should not answer.

Can my therapist discuss my situation with other therapists?

There may be times when your therapist discusses your situation with other therapists or their supervisor, which is known as consultation, but even in those situations, the therapist is obligated to keep your identity and privacy as much as possible.

Should you ask for a diagnosis before seeing a therapist?

Sometimes rushing to diagnose someone can result in a false diagnosis or overdiagnosis. It can be dehumanizing, too. A therapist should treat you as a person first, then your mental health issues. Unless you ask for a diagnosis immediately, it shouldn’t be the first part of your therapeutic experience.

Is psychotherapy supposed to be all about the therapist?

Psychotherapy is not supposed to be about the therapist. Sessions with clients are not places for therapists to process their own life problems or get support for their own life choices. Yes, bad things happen to all of us, including therapists.