What does 13th stepping mean?

Simply put, the 13th Step is a colloquial term for when a 12-Step old-timer hits on a group newcomer with less than a year of sobriety. It can be for a variety of reasons — emotional, financial, physical – but either way, it’s someone in a position of power trying to take advantage of someone who is weaker.

How long does it take to get through the 12 steps?

Most sponsors encourage the AA newcomer to attend 90 meetings in 90 days. That may seem like a lot and it may seem like a long time to commit to going to meetings. However, most 12-step programs, including those for people addicted to drugs, encourage new members to commit to those 90 meetings in 90 days.

Why do some people become overbearing?

The reason for some people to become overbearing is that they have generous time to put their nose on others desks. If you focus on your goals in life, obviously, you will have no time to waste on overbearing people.

Can you become obsessed with AA?

Outsiders say that friends or family have joined AA, only to became so obsessed with the program that they disappeared into it. Yes, this happens. There are those who probably feel that their lives were spared because of AA and that they will die if they ever use again.

How do you deal with an overbearing partner?

You can try to point out their overbearing attitudes. It may surprise them or make them mad. Overbearing people can be insecure, so admitting their faults makes them feel vulnerable. Unless you have a great relationship with the person and they trust you, it can be fruitless to try to help them see themselves.

What is AAAA’s policy on advice?

AA promotes suggestions (not advice) and those would come from a trusted sponsor or other individual who has been chosen based on their integrity and character. Second, people who toss advice around are to be avoided like the plague. There are plenty stellar members who do not behave this way.