Is a people pleaser a good or bad thing?

People Pleasers spend so much time and effort in taking care of others. Unfortunately, they often do not establish good social support for themselves. They also find it hard to give up control and let other people take care of them. While taking care of others in noble and rewarding, it can also be toxic and unhealthy.

What does being a people pleaser say about you?

Signs You Might Be a People-Pleaser You are preoccupied with what other people might think. You fear that turning people down will make them think you are mean or selfish. You agree to things you don’t like or do things you don’t want to do. You struggle with feelings of low-self esteem.

Do you know what makes a people-pleaser?

Knowing what makes a people-pleaser is the first step to making changes in your life. I’ve written extensively on this site about people-pleasing, which is also known as codependency or anxious attachment. The first step in making changes is in putting words to what is happening.

What causes people-pleasing parents?

People-pleasing parents are often in a state of emotional overwhelm, leading their children to treat them carefully, as if they were fragile. Sometimes these people-pleaser children act more like the adult in the relationship, and take on a caregiving role towards their own parents. These are a few examples of what causes people pleasing.

What is a people-pleasing child?

Sometimes these people-pleaser children act more like the adult in the relationship, and take on a caregiving role towards their own parents. These are a few examples of what causes people pleasing.

Can You Ever Say No to people pleasers?

If you are a people pleaser, saying no will be a rarity. You will also spend hours, if not days, agonising over decisions that should have been simple, trying to work yourself up to say no. Only to convince yourself to yet again say yes.