Is it cheaper to adopt or have your own baby?

Although adoption can be cheaper than birthing a child, your costs could come without the guarantee of having your adoption go through. Review potential costs for all the options you have before committing to starting or expanding your family.

Is adopting selfish?

Yes, it’s all selfish…but that doesn’t make it bad. As someone who has been going through the process of adopting a child for a few years, I would say that if you’re getting into adopting a child for selfish reasons, you may decide that adoption isn’t for you once you get into the process.

Should I adopt an adopted child?

Adoption is not necessarily a good way for a child already in the home to gain a playmate. An adopted child should not be added to the home in an effort to meet the needs of the adoptive family. Again, expectations may not be met and the child will feel the family’s disappointment.

What happens if a child doesn’t meet the expectations of adoption?

Remember, it’s not fair for a new child to enter a family as some sort of replacement. Plus, you don’t want to put that type of burden on a child. If for some reason the child does not meet the expectations of the adoptive parents, the placement might begin to fail, and sometimes that is worse than not being adopted at all.

Can a family member force you to adopt a child?

Some pre-adoptive families may feel pressure from friends or family members to adopt a foster child who has been placed in their home. Even the foster child can pressure—or even beg—the foster parents to adopt them. But you should never adopt a child because someone pressures you to do so.

Should I choose adoption if I’m struggling with infertility?

Struggling with infertility and not fully coming to terms with the inability to have a birth child can be a detriment to adoption — at least for the time being. It’s important not to skip the step of grieving the loss associated with infertility. It’s not fair for a new child to enter a family as a sort of replacement.