What to do when your parents expectations are too high?

Explain that you’re worried you can’t meet their expectations. Tell them what you see for your future, even if the answer is “I don’t know.” Proving that you’re thinking about what’s next – even if you’re not sure – might make them feel more secure. Listen to what they have to say.

What happens when parents have high expectations?

Studies have shown that high parental expectations are associated with high academic achievement. But setting expectations too high is counterproductive, new research shows. They also measured parental expectation, or how likely parents thought their kids could actually achieve those marks.

Why do you think it is important for parents to have expectations their children can accomplish?

If your children meet your effort expectations, they will, in all likelihood, perform well, achieve some level of success (how successful they become will depend on what abilities they were born with), and gain satisfaction in their efforts.

How parents expectations affect children?

Parental expectations help nurture your child’s sense of self-esteem and encourage healthy development. When expectations are set unrealistically high — or, on the other hand, ridiculously low — children’s personalities and sense of self-worth are negatively affected.

How do parents expectations shape our lives?

Parental expectations also affect the child’s own aspirations and expectations; for instance, studies suggest that parents’ expectations for their children’s academic attainment have a moderate to strong influence on students’ own goals for postsecondary education.

What does it mean to live up to your parents’ expectations?

Living up to parents expectations means that the child, instead of caring for the things she wants in life, cares about the things her parents want. Usually that’s not a recipe for a good life. The whole attention is on parents’ expectations, not on what could possibly be important for the kid. That’s why it sucks.

Are parental expectations ever a good thing?

A necessity that requires attunement. While teaching a parenting class to a group of counseling students, the question came up whether parental expectations were ever a good thing. The consensus in this class of young adults was that parental expectations have a debilitating, shaming effect on children with emerging identities.

What happens when you set high expectations on your children?

If you set high expectations for your children, they will generally live up to those expectations. Expect very little of them and they will give you very little.

Why do parents assume that their children should obey their expectations?

This points to a second kind of social contract, one based on authority rather than the mutual reciprocity in a friendship. Parents assume that their children should obey their expectations because adults have the authority to run a household. “Well, isn’t it reasonable for parents to expect certain standards of behavior from their children?”

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