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How do you get a narcissist to value you again?

How do you get a narcissist to value you again?

Loving a narcissist can be rewarding as well as difficult. These ideas can help.

  1. Listen to yourself—carefully.
  2. Do a self-inventory.
  3. Reinforce positive behavior.
  4. Practice mindfulness yourself and bring it into your relationship.
  5. Be realistic.
  6. Be honest with yourself.

How can you have a relationship with a narcissist?

The only way to have a relationship with a narcissist is to meet their expectations, be on the same page as them, perfect oneself, and not disagree or have a separate opinion. Many accommodate their needs by losing themselves in the relationship or giving a lot, in order to meet their needs, to fill the empty void of the narcissist.

How to shut down a narcissist?

Do what you can to avoid taking their bait – and giving bait. You must do what you can to avoid engaging with them.

  • Clearly communicate your needs and boundaries – in writing if possible.
  • Prepare an if/when list. Take some quiet time to write down every challenging thing you predict your narcissist might do or speak.
  • Believe you deserve better – so you stop apologizing to them. Stop apologizing so much to your narcissist. Apologizing will only backfire on you!
  • Accept you cannot change them – so you’re less surprised and less frustrated. I am not telling you to accept a narcissist’s terrible treatment.
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    How to cure a narcissist?

    No. The only cure for a narcissist is death. Then they’ll be released from the wretched inward turmoil of their lives.

    How do you recognize a narcissist?

    Watch for a change in behavior. Most relationships with a person with narcissism will start off well.

  • Examine the people around them. People with narcissism like to keep the focus on themselves,and so they tend to surround themselves with people who will mirror this behavior.
  • Check out their social media profile. Because people with narcissism are focused on status,they use social media as a way to reinforce their position.
  • Look for short-term relationships in their past. Because they are so focused on themselves,people with narcissism tend to have very short relationships.
  • Look at their appearance. People with narcissism place a high value on good outward appearance,and they use their appearance to promote their status.